Easy… my daughter was raised on a church pew and had 4 kids starting at 16… she never finished school, but my ex, who turned out to be gay, helped CO-PARENT HER & she liked his method better than ours. You get a car upon high school graduation but not before. No drugs or drinking and passing grades. We had high hopes. She scored a 32 on a preACT test entering her freshman year in HS. Moved in with her bio dad, missed 58 days of the first semester of her freshman year. Was pregnant by then because he’d let BF stay but yet, dad had no idea how the hot pregnant. Duh, she evidently was umm taking is somewhere else than her backside. Like him. She was addicted to opioid and methadone then graduated to 8 ballin & huffing. Alcohol ended up to be her hydration of choice from am to pm err day. She died, was found dead in bed in the motel she’d been at WITH her 4th child by a 3rd baby daddy at the time. Hes severely handicapped born addicted will do that. He hungry & in a very soiled state. We
Were living approximately 10-12 hours away because she’d managed to even fast back custody of a boy that WE RAISED from cutting his umbilical cord til she decided at 10 or 11 she wanted to play mom. I plead our cases of ongoing violence, addiction & a registered sex offender dad, turned enabler, that was feeding the fire. 🔥 she was STILL REUNITED with MY GRANDSON but not the first 2 born, dad had both of them & he lived about 5 blocks from me. The handicapped child had to go with her from the hospital because DHS said she promised she’d take care of him & his brother. I had no choice but to throw my hands up after 20+ years of trying and sacrificing MY 3 other girls at home by my present husband of 4o years, she died 9-16-22. Yeah, I’d threatened to shoot her ass if she ever showed up at my home again. We locked this house up and headed west and got the call we’d been expecting. We need to come back and bury her AND pay for it too of course, her dad had already died & his mother, was
Taking handicap child AND MY BOY I HAD RAISED not ever see his bio dad, was reunited with a man he didn’t like or know. But by the time we could get back to Oklahoma, dad had done swept in and got emergency 🆘 custody. By 3 months later we got a call AGAIN from law enforcement in OK that MY SON WAS IN A TULSA HOSPITAL AND WIULD BE OK, but if we could come get him he’d eventually be ok. I explained our plight … they suggested if ANYONE WE TRUSTED THAT COULD PASS A BACKGROUND FBI CHECK, that person could pick him up IF he’d go with my youngest daughter who he said oh heck yeah!! I get to go to Norman right by OU campus!! She’s gonna be a lawyer !!! Call her it only took her 1hr & about 10minutez to make it to Tulsa. We still didn’t know much or anything but was with our youngest & we trusted THat. WE got our guardianship back. He wasn’t the same boy we’d raised, but it was buried in there somewhere. His dad beat the living poo outta him & I would have probably killed my daughter by that
Point because I’d offered her everything she took it but I got nothing in return except a new excuse & accusations in return . Her dad had died from aids and she had killed herself slowly & died at only 38 years old. Left 4 kids and I still have to deal with the ex mil that just won’t die but it surely can’t be long, she pops pills too & is a closet alcoholic. I’m unable physically to care for the 13 yr old disabled son, I his granny swears she going to keep him until here last breath. MY SON, who we actually found inside of himself felt obligated enough to be certified by the state to b a caretaker of both. He calls everyday with questions & he tell anybody we’re best friends!!! I said, yes, we are, u even told me what position u were literally in when my great grandson arrives sometime n the next 4 weeks. He’s got a nursery ready, his girlfriend & him moved outta here, but they know each other since 3rd grade. I told them well, yall have had the master class in how NOT TO PARENT.
I’m sorry but you did ask a question that I felt others might want the answer to the why. A bio mother could threaten her own flesh & blood. I only have one question tho… did this JUVENILE threaten mom in ANY WAY???? It really doesn’t say, sooo I’ll just leave that here ❤️🩹🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽